I have been thinking a lot lately about identity. Mostly because the college I work at just put on it’s annual Humanites Festival with “Identity” as it’s theme, but also because some personal life happenings. Who are you? What identity have you chosen for yourself? What are the parts of you that you hide? Why do you hide? HOW do you hide?
The keynote for the festival said something that really stuck with me. She said that you should be who you are and do what you want, as long as you don’t hurt anyone else. You might offend someone, you might make them angry or upset because of who you are and what you do, but as long as you aren’t really hurting them… why not? I could get into a whole lot of philosophical mumbo jumbo here about who gets to say what hurt is, but I will leave that to you. The hurt you leave behind is on you. You decide what that hurt may be.
I am …
No… I was going to go into all the ways that I identify myself. Really though, it isn’t important. What is important is that everyday I am me, no matter what, without fail. Of course my identity is important to me, but it shouldn’t really matter to anyone else. It is me, and it is for me. How others react to it is on them. How YOU react to someone’s identity is part of your identity. We have to learn to be more accepting of others. We only make ourselves miserable by not doing so. We all have our faults. We all have our demons. We all handle life differently. Some of us drink. Some of us swear. Some of us dance. Some of us smoke. Some of us have anxiety. Some of us don’t. We are all okay exactly as we are, as long as we aren’t hurting anyone.
Find out who you are, who you want to be. Wake up everyday being that or striving to be so. Everything you say and do should be exactly what you want to say and do as you. No shame… as long as you don’t hurt anybody.
BE HAPPY! We only get this one life… as far as we know.
Don’t hide. Ever.
If you find that you are hiding, unless that is part of who you are and who you want to be, then stop. Be exactly as you are.
Just be YOU!
…and if that doesn’t work pretend you are someone else. HA!